Sunday, May 17, 2009

You need to work on it, girl-in-denial....

I was home over last weekend to attend one of my best friends' wedding.
Spent most of it at home and did nothing special. Not even a mani/pedi session.
I reached there Saturday afternoon and Mom picked us up (Dad was on another flight about half an hour before mine).

Sunday morning, Mom dropped by bro's place to pass me some of my fave local goodies for breakfast. As she was on her way out, out of nowhere, she went, "You'd better get your act together lah... Hurry up and find someone you can quarrel with.. otherwise you will one day wake up and find yourself feeling lonely."

Gosh... While I was stuffing myself silly, the stuff in my mouth was not what made me speechless. Mom has been quite aggressive in her 'campaign' the past few months, but never this approach. Never this angle....
And my food tasted a bit bland after that.... (but only for a few seconds though :P)

Before my bro sent me to the airport on Monday, I called mom -- who was at work -- to say good-bye. Again she made sure the conversation ended with her reminder: "Don't forget, chocoholic... u need to work on it."

A friend commented that I was also in denial, when I mentioned another person may be in denial. If that is true, I suppose now that that person has opened up, that leaves me as the only one being in denial?

3 comments:

Mrs. Blue Cactus said...

I know parents and their concerns. Yours is about finding someone for you. Mine is about actually getting married, which for them the wait seems like forever plus a day.
But I feel that they don't understand me. Because I'm happy about where I am today. I'm not moping around longing for the wedding day.
Like, I think, for you, you're not mopping around feeling lonely and sad.
Well, uhm, I hope you're not. :)

But if you are then, guuurrll... there'll be plenty of bachelors I will introduce you to in my wedding (if it ever comes).... ha ha...

chocoholic said...

haha...
Thanks, blue cactus.

Struggling to figure out how to say I'm just fine where I am now, without affirming the other friend's opinion that I am in denial.

So I'm just gonna leave it at that...

The older (read: mature :P) I am, the more I find that marriages, and especially weddings really are quite meaningless nowadays. The commitment is not there, you see...it's like saying I will commit... as long as I can commit.

Till death do us part? I fear our parents may probably be the last generation to truly believe in such a thing...

If that's a case, then I see the whole set-up as pointless.
Might as well just focus on savoring each moment rather then keeping your eyes on the milestones.

I'm behind you all the way, bluecactus....

Mrs. Blue Cactus said...

Oh, I totally agree.

BTW, did I have the chance to tell you that my mom suggested that I have a pre-nup?

Hehe....